What Does "Gay Christian" Actually Mean?
Preston Sprinkle and I continue our discussion in his basement, addressing heavy-hitting topics like the relationship between the phrases "gay Christian" and "toe cheese."
Gay, Christian, and Coming Out
In which Preston Sprinkle and I chat in his basement about why I wrote Single, Gay, Christian and how I came out to my parents via phone call.
Ask a Christian Counselor
In which I sit down (via podcast) with Tres Adames of "Ask a Christian Counselor" to discuss the challenges Christian sexual minorities face in making sense of their sexual identity and faith identity.
Is the Reward of Obedience Worth the Cost?
In which I share my heart with the good people of Grace Place in Berthoud, Colorado: "There are no second class citizens in the Kingdom of Heaven."
Why We Stayed
"Regardless of your experience of sexuality, regardless of how your sexual attraction is working, all of us are invited into the wild journey of following Jesus, and there's nobody who's disqualified." Hear me talk with Mike Thomas of the "Why We Stayed" podcast about why I'm still a Christian!
Can Followers of Christ Have Sexual Identities?
In which I weigh in on recent debates about biblical anthropology, writing for the World Evangelical Alliance in their journal Evangelical Review of Theology: "For Paul, it seems, obedience to Jesus must at times be negotiated precisely through the lens of a believer's various other identities, in order to reckon well with how those identities ought rightly to inform and be informed by the believer's overarching identity in Christ."
Cages (Original Song)
I had the pleasure of sharing my song "Cages" with Element Church in Cheyenne, WY. Some lyrics:
"How many lies you’ve believed / Trying to buy what was given freely / Empty-handed, all securities gone / If you follow, love will lead you home"
“Gay” Vs. “Same Sex Attraction”: A Dialogue
A seven-part blog series dialogue between me and Cru's Rachel Gilson about sexual identity and terminology. An excerpt from our final co-written post: "In the end, our hope is that this debate will become less important. Certainly, neither of us denies that language matters; but we are also convinced that other things matter far more. As Paul cautioned Timothy against 'quarreling about words' (2 Tim. 2:14), so we caution our brothers and sisters against elevating a terminological dispute above Jesus’ command for his followers to be unified."
Seven Days to Pray the Single Away
"Normally, I’m reluctant to give specific examples of Christians idolizing marriage... But every once in a while, an example comes along that is so blatantly awful that I’m quite pleased to make fun of it. This is one of those examples."
Unsolicited Marriage Advice: Gay Celibate Edition
Since people are practically lining up to get more marriage advice from the gay celibate crowd: "Loving your spouse is not, in itself, a sufficient gospel calling. In fact, marriages that turn inward and make marital happiness their primary concern, though they may advertise under the banner of Christian selflessness, are fundamentally selfish institutions."
Christmas with the Celibates
In which I point out the stark difference between the Ideal American Christmas Narrative and the Original Hebraic Christmas Narrative, and reveal how many times Mariah Carey has wanted me for Christmas.
In which I chat with some delightful Canadian brothers about faith, sexuality, and conversation across theological and experiential difference. They did tease me for using the word "monologic," but I have no regrets. An excerpt: "Regardless of how much arrogance we have in our view, regardless of how absolutely 100% sure we are that the other person is just a doofus with no legitimate insight at all... we can at least do people the honor of speaking to them in a way that fosters two-way communication, not just in a way that's monologic and ultimately unproductive."
The Mind Renewed Podcast
In this podcast with the brilliant Julian Charles of The Mind Renewed, I reflect on why my feelings about the phrase "gay Christian" are similar to my feelings about the phrase "American Christian": "I think there are Christians who take their national identity and use that national identity as a way of flavoring what their faith is and means... There's a point at which the way we conceive of national identity becomes an impediment to the truth of the gospel. But I don't think that acknowledging our national identity is inherently getting in the way of our identity in Christ."
The Evangelical Covenant Church (ECC) denomination is assembling a suite of human sexuality discipleship resources called Embrace. I was honored to participate in a webinar as part of that series. In addition to hearing my "10 Provocations" for churches, you can also hear me accidentally broadcast myself singing under my breath during some brief technical difficulties.
Podcast with Doug Leslie
In which I talk with Doug Leslie of the Association of Christian Nonprofits about being charitable to people who disagree with us on Christian sexual ethics: "There needs to be a way that we can be people of deep conviction on the one hand, and on the other hand recognize that our job is not to determine whether or not others are allowed to disagree with us. Our job is to ask, in the midst of disagreement, what does it mean to embody Jesus to these people I disagree with?"
Church is Supposed to Be Messy
Excerpt: "A church can’t be mess-free and still function as the body of Christ. After all, if a group of messy people gets together to do church, to be the church, without ever acknowledging our messes, the only possible explanation is that we’re meeting with masks on. We hide away our struggles like Pharisees, trying to pretend we’re good enough for God instead of celebrating God’s undeserved grace to us."
Podcast with Anita Lustrea
I was thrilled to chat with the illustrious Anita Lustrea on her podcast Faith Conversations. Hear my tentative thoughts on eschatology, and a bunch of other stuff.
Podcast With Brian Joyner
A wonderful conversation with novelist Brian Joyner on his podcast Be the Bridge: Connecting the LGBTQIA+ Community and People of Faith.
Your Gay Neighbor is Closer than You Think
Excerpt: "I wish that people who shared pews with me in church talked about gay people the way they talked about diplomats and florists and concierges, as if we were just people. I wish they didn’t see us as the enemy camp of a protracted culture war. I wish we spent more time talking about the gospel and less time talking about what the gospel would mean for certain people’s sex lives."
You Don't Need to Pray that God Makes Me Straight
Excerpt: "There is a form of sexual holiness that comes easy to me in ways it doesn’t come easy for my straight brothers in Christ. And by the same token, their journeys toward holiness will be easy in ways mine may never be. Being gay doesn’t make me uniquely broken, as if I’m some slip of the divine chisel. It makes me just plain broken, like everybody else. I’m exactly unremarkable enough to be a recipient of grace."
Andy Mineo Endorsement Video
I love Andy Mineo's heart for God and people. Also, the man has some serious musical skills. I'm honored (and maybe still a little bit starstruck) by his endorsement of my book in this video.
Dear Church: I'm Gay
I was delighted to be part of a short documentary project about sexual minorities in churches with a traditional sexual ethic. If you watch it, you'll get to see what I look like without glasses. (Answer: still pretty nerdy.)
Gay Celibacy is Weird, and That's a Good Thing
Excerpt: "As I continue to grow in Christ, I want to become weird in even more ways. More remarkably loving. More bizarrely joyful. More extravagantly generous. Short of growing tentacles, I want to become as alien as I can possibly be on this foreign planet Earth."
The Pursuit of Banality
Excerpt: "If I had my way, I would think about gay celibacy the same way I think about my career options, or what I should have for dinner, or whether I want a pet ferret. I would think about it the way I imagine that straight people think about being straight, as if it’s simply part of life. It wouldn’t need to be a stentorian shout or an embarrassed whisper in the chambers of my mind. It would just be."
Single, Gay, Christian Book Trailer
Check out the book trailer for Single, Gay, Christian on YouTube. Alternative description: I sit in someone else's living room and say things about Jesus, while also providing video evidence that I have attractive friends.
What Does Evangelism Look Like in a Digital, Social Media Age?
Excerpt: "If we’re not careful, we can wind up communicating a 'gospel' that’s different from the gospel of the Bible. We can speak the name of Jesus in a way that drives people away from Him instead of towards Him."
Interview with Foreword Reviews
In which I talk about costly obedience, how we read the Bible, and the word "evangelical" with Michelle Schingler of Foreword Reviews.
A Conversation with Preston Sprinkle
I had the chance to chat with New York Times bestselling author Preston Sprinkle about faith, sexuality, and the importance of language. Check out our conversation on Preston's podcast, Theology in the Raw.
A Good Friday Prayer
Excerpt: "Don’t let me rush to Easter Sunday too quickly. Give me grace to linger here, in the place where sorrow meets redemption. Make Your death as real to me as Your resurrection."
A Valentine's Day Prayer to Find True Love
Excerpt: "Give me eyes to see the red and pink, the flowers and chocolates, the blossoming romances, as tiny windows into Your limitless love. Let me see You in the construction paper hearts awkwardly delivered on the playground, in the crayon scrawl of 'Be My Valentine.' In our imperfect love, let me glimpse Your perfect love."
Why You Need to Stop Making God Your First Priority
Excerpt: "God wants more than just the top line of your priority list. He wants the whole list. He doesn’t want to be sequestered to a single part of your life. He wants to be the substance of every part, the logic behind every choice you make."
A Prayer for Peace in Our Country and World
Excerpt: "I pray to you not as someone distant and aloof, but as someone near to me, near to us, even in the midst of chaos. I don’t have to shout to get your attention. You are close enough to hear my broken whispers. No matter how strong or weak I feel, no matter how much or how little faith I can muster, I’ll start by whispering this: Give us peace."
4 Biblical Things Christians Can Do about Same-Sex Marriage
Excerpt: "Many Christians talk about homosexuality the way we talk about life on Mars. It's an abstraction, a thought experiment. We can take a stance, form a belief, and go on with life as usual. We don't really have to do anything. But what happens when our abstract beliefs about homosexuality collide with a living, breathing, bleeding human being?"